This weekend was a great weekend- I got to spend some time with my family and make some sweet memories- but in that I also learned some lessons from my darling daughters.

The holiday season is a time of year where everything feels a bit more magical- maybe it’s the twinkle lights, the time with family, the baked goodies, santa, or all the holiday traditions.

This is the first year in many years where I have not been responsible for planning a grand holiday soiree for clients, employees, and vendors. It kind of feels like, for the first time in over a decade I can actual flow with and enjoy the holiday season- because I’m not trying to control it.

I took my daughters shopping this weekend, for Christmas presents and while we were in the car, I told them Lena 11, and Emma 13 that there was no Santa. Emma already knew but Lena was gutted. When I asked her why she was so upset, she told me, she believes in magic, and doesn’t want there to be no magic on Christmas.

I was shocked, because as a child, at 8 years old I learned there was no Santa and I was relieved- there was too much pressure to achieve perfect behavior, then a strange dude in our house. Sure I loved the surprise of filled stockings and Christmas morning but the rest was a lot for me to handle as a child.

What I learned through an extended conversation with my daughters- is they believe in magic- the magic that their father and I have created for them year after year- in spite of being divorced since Lena was 1 1/2 years old.

Often times I don’t think we realize the power that magic that we bring into our lives and businesses simply by being who we are.

It’s really easy to get lost in the doing, the having, and the toiling to make it through life and prove to ourselves and those around us that we are a success.

The thing is- nobody really gives a shit about what you do for a living, what kind of car you drive, where you live or how much money you make.

They care about how you make them feel.

The experience you give others, simply by being in your presence.

Do you make people feel better or worse about themselves?

Do you lift others up or do you put them down- remind them of “their place” in the world?

Do you encourage and speak life into others or do you speak down to others?

The wonder and awe you create in the world could be through your business and through the relationships you have and the memories that you make.

The hard work that you do, is creating magic for someone else- even if- for you, it just feels like work.

Today, I one year since I walked away from gym business- (uncanny timing, pre- COVID. ) Truth be told, it has been a year of unpacking some baggage that I had acquired through owning the gym.

BUT

Today, for the first time- maybe ever- I heard the compliments and comments about what I created with the gym in the time that I had it. For every person who walked through our doors I made it my mission to let them feel seen, let them feel needed, and let them know they mattered.

I think I achieved that.

It’s not until being through it, and on the other side of it that I realize my own power and the magic I breathe into everything I do.

It honestly helps me breathe a little easier, being able to take a beat and acknowledge what I have done and what I have left to do.

Though this has been cathartic for me to write, I am realizing that I have not left you with anything other than some personal realizations and short stories, that’s not very helpful and certainly not the purpose of this blog post.

To wrap up this post let me give some actionable steps you can take to create magic and fully step into your power in your business and your life.

1. Be YOU

   When in doubt, and you don’t even know what it means to be you- sit still, journal, pray, ask the hard questions of the universe, “ Who am I?” and “ Who do I want to be?”

   You were created to be you, and only you. When in doubt, be you- even if that means you cuss like a sailor, tell dirty jokes, and add a dash of awkwardness to any situation.

   Nobody wants you to be anyone other that you.

   You Matter.

   Who you are matters.

   What you do matters.

2. Get Lost

   I like to say, “ The fastest way to find yourself is to get a little lost.”

   Go for a wander, experience something new, explore different places, tastes, cultures. Walk in someone else’s shoes for a day, a week, a month or a year

   A shift in scenery can work wonders to shift your perspective.

3. Take a Stand and Stay There

   This year, this pandemic, and this political season has brought a lot of opinions and perspectives out of the wood work.

   It’s easy to stand back and watch the madness unfold, not really having an opinion or a stance or a point of view. Let’s be honest- not having a point of view- or being hostile in your point of view are the trademarks of our generation and the world we live in.

   It takes courage to stand firm, to use your voice even if it’s shaking, and to disagree with others.

   Your point of view, your perspectives, and your ability to listen to others are things that truly define who we are.

   I understand the desire to please everyone, I think most women do. If you don’t take a stand for something, you will fall for anything.

   So let your freak flag fly and be open about your beliefs- not everyone will agree with with, but why would you want them to anyways?

4. MOVE & TAKE ACTION

   There is a difference between people who have beliefs and visions for the world and people who have beliefs and vision and actively seek to mold the world to fit their vision.

   The simple act of taking action, is the simple action of working your magic and fully stepping into your power.

   Will it always be easy? Hell no.

   Will there be an evolution? God I hope so.

   Will is be perfect? As long as you are human, you can fully expect it to be messy and imperfect.

Stepping into your power doesn’t mean life suddenly gets easier, I would argue that at times it can actually get harder- but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be you, all of you, in all your glory.

Step into your power and go work your magic.

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