Where is this whole thing going

I originally started this page, this blog and even this business as a way to coach and guide other women in business through the ebbs and flows of owning a growing business, mothering and living life. It felt divinely guided and just what I needed at the time. A break or perhaps an escape.

Maybe you can relate to the need to escape your own reality, and find yourself searching for a place to recreate yourself, your work or maybe just be you in a world that just pushes and drives and strives for more. More work, more money, more clients, more balance, more happiness, more healthy, more sexy, more.

It's exhausting, really. Trying to keep up. More often I think it is all in my head- that I am making my life, my reality harder than it needs to be. If it's in my head great! But then what do I do with it?

Accept it. Face it. Cry about it. Learn from it. Keep it in. Let it out. Figure it out. Let it be.

I think these are questions, and answers that most of us momma bosses are seeking. Because let's be real- nobody every showed us just how hard it was gonna be to have it all, or at the very least dare to strive for it all. Our mothers never told us that to be a mother, didn't mean we were nothing else. They did everything so selflessly for us, but I think purhaps they also forgot to show us their own humanity.

Did you too ever look at your mother as a robot, or this being sent to take care of you? Feed you? Drive you and your friends around? Scream at you? Clean the house? 

Up until about 9 years ago, I thought that was all it was to be a mother- you have no identity. Your life as a person is over. All your experiences involve your children from time time of conception to your time of death.

One day I woke up, and realized I was still alive, I still had goals, and ambitions that didn't include my children or my significant other . Things that I still wanted, that I was willing to do the work for to show up in this world, in this life- in a way that I felt would best honor my own creation.

I suppose this blog is just that, or at least the direction I want to take it. 

How to live a life you are proud of with all the hats we wear, and pull all the joy, the love, the laughter, the pain and the sorrow out of it that we can. To truly experience life on your terms- even with it sucks. lol. 

Maybe at some point I will have seminars, retreats, and get togethers. But for now I am just going to allow whatever is happening here happen. I won't force success, as I find myself so often doing. I just hope that this page, this blog, becomes by fierce cry out to the world and maybe just maybe makes your day just a little more exciting. 

Looking for something badass to help you create a live less stressed and more enjoyable check out my ebook The Balanced Momma Boss- it's free and really helpful if you feel like your life is in tatters. 

3 Tips for Managing time when you have no time.

Time is our most valuable asset. Time can not be created or destroyed, but it can sure pass quickly if we aren't intentional about how we use it.

As Momma Bosses it is really easy to get wrapped up in life and lose track of time, for time to just fly by- and next thing we know it is 8 o'clock on a school night, you still don't know what's for dinner, the kids and hubs are cranky, hungry and tired, and you may be searching for the nearest bottle of wine to uncork to try and silence the sounds as you figure out what's for dinner.

The overwhelm is a real deal, you find yourself identifying with your crazy mother. Perhaps she wasn't so nuts as you had originally thought.

Yep, I think we have all been there.

The good news is, you don't have to stay there. Stuck in the overwhelm of life passing you by and you just being along for the ride. In fact you can make time and life yours to handle.

I know what your are thinking, " Sara, you just don't understand, my life is so busy keeping up with everyone else- how could it ever be different. How can I make my goals a priority when my family is my priority."

To that I say, I was once there myself. Overwhelmed, afraid to follow my dreams for fear that my family would be left in the dust. Here's the thing though, your family needs you to follow your dreams. 

If your dream is to start your own business, provide a service for others you not only owe it to your family to follow your dreams but it's also your moral ethical obligation to share your gift with the world and those who need what you have to offer. I digress.

Time...

Learning to leverage your time, so you can manage your business not so your business manages you, is crucial not only to the business's survival, but yours and your families as well. 

Here are my Top 3 TIPS for making the most of your minutes and hours.

1) Set Boundaries around your work time

Setting boundaries around your work time, work days, family time and free time is crucial so that you can turn it on and then turn it off when it's time to  attend to your family, friends and social obligations. It's also good to let people know your boundaries so they know WHAT to expect from you and WHEN to expect from you. When you don't set boundaries on your working hours it can be very easy to slip into bad habits, and do what you do best- work on something you love that you know is going to make a difference to a lot of people. Plus when you set boundaries you will find that you get more done in less time, because you have focused time to work. I am able to get done in 5 hours a day what used to take me 18- because I set boundaries on myself and let my staff, clients and family know what they could expect. This also provides a level of built in accountability.

2) Schedule Everything

Personally I am an every 15 minutes kind of girl and I block my time. Also remember the schedule can be changed, but it is there to hold you accountable and keep you moving forward. Sometimes things get shifted so we must shift. Just remember your schedule is there to protect you- not to keep you from doing the things you want to do.

3) Learn to say no or delegate

We are notorious for saying yes, yes, yes until we have no time or energy left to give. It's ok to not be everything to everyone and to not do it all. When you learn to say No to the things you really don't want to do you are going to be able to say yes to the things you really do want to do. For the things in life that must be done, it's ok for you not to have to be the one who does it! Hire someone to clean your house, go grocery shopping, do your laundry. Delegate the things that take the most time that do nothin to make your business more successful- you won't regret it and you will wonder why it took you so long in the first place.

Here is an example of my Monday Thru Thursday Schedule, sometimes it changes, but I do my best to stick within these guidelines:

5a-630a: Journal, Meditate, Workout

630a-8a: Get Ready for the day, and get the kids off to school

8a-820a: Drive to work- listen to inspiring podcast 

820a-10a: Meet with Clients

10a-11a: Check in with staff/ Staff Training

11-12p: Lunch with Husband

12-1:30p: Meet with Clients or work on big project

1:30-3p: Create Content- Blog Posts, Videos, FB LIVE, Email Broadcasts

3p-3:20p: Power down, brain dump, and review tomorrows schedule

3:20-5p: Pick up kids, help with homework, etc

5-6p: Phones and Devices off, Cook dinner

6-8:30p: Family Time

8:30-8:45p: Tuck in kids

8:45-10:30p: Adult time with my husband