Managing Your Chaos

HOT MESS EXPRESS

Do you ever feel that if you were to fully be all of who you are, you would be fully and totally rejected. People would look at you differently, like you less, and judge you even more harshly?

We all have parts of ourselves that we try to silence, avoid or judge harshly.

For as long as I can remember, I wanted to fit in- with all the pretty polished, sure of themselves girls. I wanted to be popular, and for people to like me and want to be my friend.

Be normal.

Last year, was a year of A LOT of change… I lived out of a suitcase for the entire year and was separated from my children and husband for half of it. My life was in constant flow, and changed many times in a moment.

One of my children, was so scandalized with the upheaval, and change happening in our lives- and asked the question, “Why aren’t you normal? Why can’t our family just be normal? With parents that work normal, stable jobs and things aren’t always changing?”

It hurt… more than I like to admit. One of my children had just addressed my deepest fear- that other people could sense the chaos that I felt like I was always trying to hide.

After a couple weeks of marinating on why his response hurt so much, I realized I could accept his criticisms as hurtful or I could accept I am who I am.

For as long as I can remember, my life has been a state of chaos… and I like it.

I like the chaos.

Sometimes it can get overwhelming, but I handle it.

Business owners, entrepreneurs and the self employed can probably relate to loving the chaos. It’s in our nature.

The draw of the chaos, solving problems, helping others, is something that is comforting- even if you choose not to admit it. Being in the flow of life and your decisions. Being who you really are and ok with it.

It’s a journey of self acceptance and self love.

Part of what makes you awesome is your ability to deal with chaos. When you take action, massive action, consistent daily action to move things forward- the universe will push against you, asking you how bad you want what you say you want. You deal with the pushback, the failures, the fall- downs, and keep pushing forward.

Where other people would look at the chaos and stop, turn around, go back to what they know- we lean forward, look the chaos in the eye and ask for more.

I once read a quote that was something along the lines of

Some women are consumed by the fire, others are refined by the fire.

Stepping into the chaos of starting a business, getting it off the ground, and growing it into something is a daily battle- and for some of us, it’s the battle we stake our lives on.

It’s not easy.

It’s not even as close to as glamorous as it looks on social media.

It’s a lifetime of learning to dance with the chaos.

Let me know in the comments if you have ever felt the same way I have about your own chaos?

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Why You Don't Need Another Course

The first meeting of Course Buyers Anonymous has come to order, you belong here if you have been guilty of purchasing courses to solve your problems, going through the first few modules, then dropping them like bad habit, because you bought another course.

Are you guilty of this? Buying a course, starting the course, quitting the course, then buying another course that does the same thing.

Don’t get me wrong, I love buying courses, I’ve bought many courses over the years, some I finished, some I didn’t. When I take a step back and look at all the money I’ve spent on courses I never completed- it makes me tear up a little.

People buy courses because the marketing is spot on, the sales process is easy, and the course promises to help you achieve your goals and dreams.

Where most of these courses and programs are missing the mark is the people component. Part of the value stack of just about every single course is the course itself, a facebook community, and workbooks for implementation. None of this is necessarily wrong, but there is something missing in the equation… accountability and help with implementation.

Most people buy a course when what they really need is a mastermind or coaching program, because it’s what they can afford. When you stop to look at how much money you spend on courses doing the same thing, you could easily afford coaching or a mastermind, where you can almost be guaranteed to shoot past your goals, because you have coaching, accountability and true community.

I have a beef with coaches, consultants and course creators who lean heavily on their facebook groups for community, support and accountability.

With the push to grow facebook groups specifically, the personalization and caring of the industry has taken a back seat. When I see community through a facebook group being part of a value stack, I roll my eyes a little. I roll my eyes even more when I see these same people asking how to increase engagement in their facebook group.

That’s not community friends, it’s a cop out, (but that’s another post, you can read here.)

There are actually a couple courses and programs out there that take the implementation and coaching part more seriously in their sales process, but when the rubber hits the road they too fall flat in assisting with implementation.

I’m cautious of investing in companies who largely scale personalized coaching, fail to deliver personalized coaching, and hide behind contracts and weak facebook groups.

There are also some really great personalized course implementation coaching programs, which are smaller, the quality is high, and you aren’t just another number on their enrollment sheet. These programs tend to be smaller, less hyped, but more personalized- so you aren’t just getting lost in the shuffle- but they are a bit more expensive than just a course.

Friend you don’t need another coarse, you need accountability, you need a sounding board, your need someone to bounce ideas off of, and tell you what is great, and what is not. Buying another course, is just going to drain your bank account, and leave you just as confused as you were when you started.

You don’t need another course, you need coaching and accountability, if you really want to take your results to the next level. Sure you can do it on your own, but it takes longer, is more frustrating, and you get to skip the hardest learning curve when you have someone come along side you, and guide you.

Make no mistake, coaching won’t solve your problems, you still have to do the work. Coaching will give you a ear to bend, a real person to talk to, who is equally invested in your success, but it won’t give you someone to do the work for you.

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