Where is this whole thing going

I originally started this page, this blog and even this business as a way to coach and guide other women in business through the ebbs and flows of owning a growing business, mothering and living life. It felt divinely guided and just what I needed at the time. A break or perhaps an escape.

Maybe you can relate to the need to escape your own reality, and find yourself searching for a place to recreate yourself, your work or maybe just be you in a world that just pushes and drives and strives for more. More work, more money, more clients, more balance, more happiness, more healthy, more sexy, more.

It's exhausting, really. Trying to keep up. More often I think it is all in my head- that I am making my life, my reality harder than it needs to be. If it's in my head great! But then what do I do with it?

Accept it. Face it. Cry about it. Learn from it. Keep it in. Let it out. Figure it out. Let it be.

I think these are questions, and answers that most of us momma bosses are seeking. Because let's be real- nobody every showed us just how hard it was gonna be to have it all, or at the very least dare to strive for it all. Our mothers never told us that to be a mother, didn't mean we were nothing else. They did everything so selflessly for us, but I think purhaps they also forgot to show us their own humanity.

Did you too ever look at your mother as a robot, or this being sent to take care of you? Feed you? Drive you and your friends around? Scream at you? Clean the house? 

Up until about 9 years ago, I thought that was all it was to be a mother- you have no identity. Your life as a person is over. All your experiences involve your children from time time of conception to your time of death.

One day I woke up, and realized I was still alive, I still had goals, and ambitions that didn't include my children or my significant other . Things that I still wanted, that I was willing to do the work for to show up in this world, in this life- in a way that I felt would best honor my own creation.

I suppose this blog is just that, or at least the direction I want to take it. 

How to live a life you are proud of with all the hats we wear, and pull all the joy, the love, the laughter, the pain and the sorrow out of it that we can. To truly experience life on your terms- even with it sucks. lol. 

Maybe at some point I will have seminars, retreats, and get togethers. But for now I am just going to allow whatever is happening here happen. I won't force success, as I find myself so often doing. I just hope that this page, this blog, becomes by fierce cry out to the world and maybe just maybe makes your day just a little more exciting. 

Looking for something badass to help you create a live less stressed and more enjoyable check out my ebook The Balanced Momma Boss- it's free and really helpful if you feel like your life is in tatters. 

It's easy to feel beaten down

Let's be honest as an entrepreneur it can seem like a lonely road. The challenges are abounding, the responsibility rest heavy on your shoulders to take care of your clients, your staff and to always be creating something that is marketable and profitable, but also something that serves others.

Most people decided to become entrepreneurs after having a bad experience with a boss who micromanaged, or was overpaid or maybe you though you could do it better. So off you went to take the road less traveled- you decided to take your life into your own hands and become the boss. 

When starting you were thrilled, excited and scared.

You would wake up a tizzy of energy and light, and enthusiasm to get your work done and make an impact. The days were long, you would have small wins through out the day, and the weeks and even the months. You woke up one day and realized something was missing.

You hadn't talked to your friends in a months, your family was beginning to wonder if mom was ever going to return and you felt your health beginning to suffer. One day you are talking to a family member, and they look at you and say, " Something has got to give, can't you see you are burning the candle at both ends."

At least that is how the conversation went with me and my Dad. My dad is a serial entrepreneur himself and he has gone through bouts of extreme growth and extreme struggle. When he noticed I was running out of gas, I knew something had to give. Next, I did what any sane woman would do, I went home and cried my eyes out, and pondered throwing in the towel.

After a solid pity party I pulled myself together and reminded myself of my mission and realized that it's ok to not do it all, it's ok to not be everything to everyone and it is possible to still be successful. 

As Momma Bosses it is easy to feel like you are in this by yourself. You work, you create, your provide for your family, you cook, you clean, you market, you network, you work your hardest to maintain a healthy happy relationship, you do your best to be a good friend, and then you do your best to raise children that are at the very least kind, gentle and well balanced individuals- who hopefully don't grow up damaged beyond repair. While hopefully at the end of the day you have enough left to feed yourself,  shower and shave your legs.

It's hard!

Heck sometimes is just down right exhausting!

I get it! 

On those hard days though, on the days you feel bruised and bit bloodied- when you are tempted to throw in the towel... Would you have it any other way?

For now find comfort in knowing that you aren't alone, you never will be and remember you got this!

Over the next several blogs I will be posting about finding balance when you feel off balance, so you can accomplish more with less time, and be able to give more of yourself to your vision and your purpose and of course your people.