3 Steps to Get What You Want Out Of Life

When my daughter Lena was about 7 years old, she got very upset because there was something she wanted. I didn’t know what it was, or why she was upset. All I knew was that she was very upset.

She did the Lena Lockout… she locked her knees, curled her toes, and held her breath. Clearly, she was ticked about something, but refused to tell me. Eventually after some time of cajoling her to tell me what wrong, she erupted.

She wanted something, and it wasn’t fair she didn’t get it.

I asked her, if she told me she wanted the thing, and I missed it?

She said no, I should just know what she wants.

I let her know that that I am not a mind reader, and if she wants something all she has to do is ask. Put it out there, because at least when you say what you want, you have 50% chance of getting it. If you say nothing you have a 100% chance that you will never get what you want.

Like Lena learned that day, it takes courage and knowing yourself to know what you want, and to ask for what you want.

When it comes to achieving the success you want to achieve, the same holds true.

Recently a posed the question on social media, “Do you set goals or do you avoid setting goals?”

The answers I got ran the gambit. Some people avoid setting goals or declaring what they want, because what if they fail or the answer is no?

While others, detest the word and very concept of setting ”goals” but still get what they want out of life by creating a vision, and steps to achieve that vision, creating accountability and consistency, or manifesting (this is cringe world for me, but whatever works for you, works for you.)

Regardless of what you call the process of declaring what you want and the process for going after doesn’t really matter. Find the verbage that works for you.

Many of us were taught to sit still, be quiet, look pretty. It never occurred to us, that we were even allowed to have or ask for what we want. It can be a be a learning curve to actually ask ourselves what we want, and get after getting it.

You don’t need permission to want what you want.

You don’t need permission to go after what you want.

What you do need to get what you want out of life, business and all your pursuits is simple, not easy.

1. “What do I want?”

   Have the courage to ask yourself what do you want. It can take time to come up with an answer, especially if you have never asked yourself what it is you want. The more you ask this question, the faster you will know if you are actually on the right track for achieving what you want.

2. Figure out the action steps

   Knowing what you want is one thing. Having the courage to go after it, is another. You can want want something, but if no one knows, and you don’t have a plan of daily actions for getting it, you will never have it.

   To many live their lives half way, saying what they want, and then wait for the universe to serve it up on a silver platter without actually taking the action steps to make it happen. Then they wonder why, they still don’t have what they want.

   Declaration + Intentional Action= Results

3. Have patience & trust

   Change takes time. Success takes time. Sometimes things take more time than others. Trust yourself, trust the process, and have faith that with persistence good things will come.

   The journey to having the life and business you want, it the biggest and most beautiful part of life, and attaining your goals and visions.

Whether you set goals, have visions, make plans, or set intentions- there are many words and ways we go about creating the life and experiences we want.

If you have yet to sit down and declare what you want to yourself and the world around you, there is no time like the present. Sign up for my 90 minute Workshop on Monday, January 11th at 11a MST. We will break down where you are and were you want to go in the next 3,6,9, and 12 months in 9 key areas of your life and business. You can sign up for my 90 Minute Workshop here.

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4 Ways Make this Year Different

Over the last few weeks I have felt myself feeling a little breathless, anxious, and unsettled. While at the time same feeling juiced up and excited for the year ahead.

Last year was a year of “wandering through the desert,” as I have started referring to it. I didn’t let go of the vision for my life and working towards that vision took an entirely different, unquantifiable quest for success and healing.

Last year was really, just that, a year of healing, clearing out the clutter and baggage in my mind and spirit. It was a year where the goal was survival. Which is so unlike me, it’s not even funny. You can read more about my 20 lessons in 2020 here.

I don’t believe that we came to this planet to merely survive, I believe each person is here for a reason and existing is not it. I believe each and every one of us was created to thrive and impact the lives around them.

I believe success is relatively simple to achieve, when you follow simple steps to achieve success, because big successes are achieved by small daily intentional actions. It doesn’t matter if you are trying to lose weight, grow a business, learn a language- everything boils down to small daily actions.

The hardest part in achieving anything isn’t the obstacles and roadblocks along the way, it’s how you see the obstacles. (That’s another post you can read here)

Sometimes, the success is found in the pause. The moments of reflection and making sure you are ok with you, and that was very much what last year was for me, and I suspect for many of you reading this.

The pause can last a week, a month, a year or a decade. It’s a chance to get re-centered and refocused, which in today’s go go go pace, is needed.

Just like the seasons change, so do seasons of life. Just as there is time for things to grow, there is a time for things to rest. For many, last year was a time of involuntary rest, while for others it was a time for working double time.

Whether or not the vaccine changes anything with our society, part of being a business woman, coach, consultant or creator is learning to adapt and keep moving forward.

Right now we are experiencing a massive shift in the leadership of the world from political, to business and every where in between. There is a massive changing of the guard, and the world needs what you’ve got right now.

People who were top dogs 12 months ago, have faded into obscurity- some have fought the shift, while others have just let it happen. Some who were leaders have grown bitter and taken to airing their dirty laundry all over the internet, others have grown silent, and others have taken the opportunity to pivot and explore new opportunities.

There is rising of new leaders right now who are more intuitive of the marketplace, great managers who are willing to make the hard decisions, and are nimble and adaptable.

If you are ready to make this year different from last year and achieve your goals here are some tips for you:

1. Get Specific About What You Want

   Set a big annual goal, something that you know you can achieve, and maybe just a stretch beyond what you know you can achieve.

2. Stay focused

   Getting clear not only about what you want, but what you need to do to get there is a big part of success. One of the hardest things for most of entrepreneurial women is we have a tendency to get distracted by shiny objects, so we get super hyped about the next thing, when what we should really do is stay hyped about our current offering, until it’s sold out, full up and fully automated and sytemetized before we go adding fancy new things to our plates. It is a discipline to stay focused, but it’s crucial if you want to win.

3. Show Up Everyday

   I’m not saying you can’t take days off, I would be a hypocrite if that were my advise. I believe in working until the work is done and then switching off.

   Plan and schedule your activities and time block the things that are most important to you. If you set a goal to achieve something, set yourself up for success by showing up for yourself. Ditch the excuses you have to not do the work, and instead seek reasons to do the work so that you can have the end result.

4. Get Accountable.

   Hiring a coach, plugging into a tribe, and declaring your goals- is the fastest way to achieve your goals. I have hired several coaches in the last 15 years to help me in areas like my health, business, mindset and beliefs.

   By being accountable to other people you are making sure someone else is invested in your success who can help you achieve your goals with wisdom and guidance, shine a light on your blind spots that are slowing you down or stopping you, plus they will make sure that you do the things you said you were going to do to get the results you said you wanted.

Have you taken the time to get clear on what your goals are in all 9 areas of your life?

Have you set yourself up for success by hiring a coach, creating a plan and connecting to a community?

If not now is the time. I will be hosting a Goal Setting Workshop on Monday, January 11th at 11a MST (where all my 11:11 people at?) In this workshop we will spend 90 minutes together and look at 9 areas of your life and evaluate where you are, decide where you would like to make a change, and create a plan to achieve it.

Sign up for the Goal Setting Workshop Here

This workshop is for you if you haven’t set your 2021 goals yet, you lack accountability, or feel like the only goals you ever set are income goals, and weight loss goals. Momma Boss, there is so much more to you, your life and your values than those 2 things.

It’s time to start living the Momma Boss Life, where working smarter is better than working harder. Sign up for the Goal Setting Workshop here.

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