3 Steps to Get More Done Even With The Kids Home

With everyone in your home being home right now, it can be a struggle to get everything done.

Start working… kids need something… stop working… help kids… repeat.

Your days have gone from feeling fairly controlled, and and predictable for the most part, to complete chaos.

By 10a one of your children is already under the table crying, you are frustrated- and wondering if you are going to be able to make it through stay at home orders with your sanity and sobriety intact.

It’s tempting to let everything in your life, business, health, and household go. It hard!

But it doesn’t have to be this hard. It’s not easy, but it also doesn’t have to be this hard.

I get it.

Back in 2015- I reached total burnout trying to do a little bit of a lot of things at all times. I was working 18 hours a day, successful and miserable.

My husband and I were fighting all the time and I was convinces I was the worst mother in the history of all mothers (oh the drama!)

I realized at that time I couldn’t continue working the way I had been working or my family would leave me, my health would continue to spiral, and I would probably set my business on fire. I had to figure out a better way to work and live- because I was failing at life.

You probably feel like you are failing at life right now- but you don’t have feel that way.

TOP 3 THINGS TO IMPLEMENT RIGHT NOW TO MAKE WORKING AT HOME WITH YOUR KIDS EASIER

Create Focus Time

Focus Time changed my life back in 2015. I was able to shrink my workdays from 18 hour work days to 3-5 hour workdays. You will find you will actually get more done in those 3-5 hour windows that you ever got done before.

We waste a lot of time being distracted by our phones, internet browsers, magazines, online shopping, scrolling and so much more.

When you, and your children all put your devices away- and focus for 3-5 hours. School will get done faster and more effectively. Your work will get done faster and more effectively.

If 3-5 hours is too large of a window to focus- start small and try for 1-2 hours at time.

Communicate with your family what you are doing, why you are doing it and what they can expect.

Communication and boundaries are crucial to see success. If you struggle to communicate and set boundaries- this will be really hard, but there is no time like the present to start:)

Establish a New Routine

One of the hardest parts of this new normal for a lot of momma bosses, families, and children is the absence of a reliable routine. It can feel like a long term vacation, but the world keeps on moving, even if it is slower, and we must keep moving with it.

We have the choice each day, to do better, be better, manage better and cope better.

Embrace this current state as your new normal, and find ways to keep it as normal as possible. Wake up at the same time each day, get dressed and go work everyday, eat your meals at the same time each day, workout at the same time everyday. Create consistency.

Establish your work space, you kids should establish their school space- even if it’s everyone at the dining room table.

Have hard start times, and end times for all your responsibilities. I know how tempting it is to just sit around in your jammies all day, eating cookie dough and waiting for the storm to pass, but you’ve done enough of that.

Discipline and structure will be the greatest gift you can give to yourself and your family right now.

The world needs what you’ve got to offer now more than ever, so get up, dress up and show up. If you want help with this, download my Free Momma Boss Sanity Saver Course.

Be Gentle with Yourself & Your Family

Be gentle with yourself and your family and try to find ways to still find the joy in life.

Accept that there are more emotions for you to manage- because everyone is in close quarters right now.

Some days will feel like you are winning and other days will be a complete disaster, where nothing gets done. It’s ok.

Just keep moving forward.

At least if you are endeavoring to move forward you are stagnant or worse heading backwards.

If you want more help with this, I created a Free Momma Boss Sanity Saver Course that you can access here.

Keep up the good work Momma. You got this.

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Watch this video I created, explaining Focus Time

How do you define and measure success?

How each person defines success is different from person to person. Success for some is never achieved, because success is reserved for those people… you know the ones, you see them- but clearly those people have something you do not.

Success comes in many different forms and can be evaluated from many different perspectives.

The top 3 Ways we have been socially conditioned to measure success are:

1. Money

2. Influence

3. Freedom

For many people who achieve the money, influence and freedom- still find themselves unfulfilled and still chasing. People who have achieved “success,” without truly evaluating what success means to them find themselves, depressed, lost, in crisis and searching.

So it’s important to evaluate what success means to you. There is a variety of ways we can and should measure success as it applies to us and our values. Here are a aspects of your life to evaluate and note what is important to you and what success truly means to you.

4. Physical health- this can range from your physical fitness, health, and activity level. You ability to keep up with your kids, seduce your spouse and feel attractive or ability to survive the zombie apocolypse.

5. Mental & Emotional Health- how are you doing managing stress, depression, facing down your demons and managing your own crazy (and we all got crazy.)

6. Healthy Intimate relationships- this could mean having a happy and healthy intimate relationship with your spouse, partner, or your person.

7. Healthy Core Friendships- you get do define and pick who your people are, how much you talk to them and even when you see them. We all have that handful of people you haven’t seen for years and when you reconnect it is like no time as past,

8. Healthy Social Life- whether you like to connect in the community through church, fundraisers, meetups, work or coffee shops, you decide how you get out in the world, how often, when and what a successful social life looks like to you. People need people. We need connection and connections to blossom and flourish in life.

9. Spirituality- I define this as my connection to source and the universe. Some call it God, Spirit, Buddha, Allah. However you define connection. I believe it’s important to have a spiritual practice whether it’s prayer, meditation, going to church, spending time in nature. Whatever it looks like to you-define it.

10. Contribution- How do like to contribute to the world around you? Volunteering, donating you time or money, encouraging others, working with the youth. This one I find is more important than many people like to admit. There really is no better feeling than knowing you made an impact for other people.

11. Fun, Hobbies & Leisure- HAVE FUN! Life is not just work, go home, eat, sleep, repeat. Get a hobby, learn something new. Experience new places, new cultures and make some freaking memories.

12. Work- Do work you love. Life is too short to spend time doing things you hate. You don’t have to follow your passion, but bring your passion and joy with you. If you find work you enjoy- you will never work another day in your life. Sure not all days will be great, but when you enjoy the work you do, the hard days are easier to get thru and make the struggles worth it.

As you evaluate what success means to you, question all these areas of your life. Some areas you will look at and go, “ I’m good- solid- this is how I want my life to look.” Other areas you will look at go,”Dang! I have a lot of work to do in this area to feel happy or successful.”

Once you know where you stand in all the aspects of your life, paint a picture of what success means for you each area and make a plan to fix it significantly over the next 90 days.

Make a plan to take 1 action a day that will move you closer towards your vision of success. Schedule that action into your calendar and do it.

An example of this- you want to improve your intimate relationship, so over the next 90 days you commit to writing a little love note to your sweetie each day with no expectations for it to be reciprocated.

As you go through the next 90 days take a note of the progress each week.

2020 Can be the best Year yet- but it will take being intentional in setting your goals, and working towards your goals.