The crisis of motherhood
As women, when we have children, most of us go through an identity crisis. The instant they are born, deep love we have for our children when they are born sends most of down a path of sacrifice, love, compassion, exhaustion and desire to care for another human like we never thought possible.
As women, when we have children, most of us go through an identity crisis. The instant they are born, the deep love we have for our children when they are born sends most of us down a path of sacrifice, love, compassion, exhaustion and desire to care for another human like we never thought possible.
Whether you become a mother early in life or later. Most of us face the decision to be a stay at home mom, continue to work or find a solution where we can work while still prioritizing our children.
Regardless of what path you choose, it’s easy to find yourself constantly in a state of some level of guilt.
Mom guilt is real and comes in many forms.
When you prioritize yourself and your dreams like when you get up early to workout, work on your dreams.
When you prioritize your work and purpose like when you have to meet a client outside of school hours, when your kids are in school.
The other side of mom guilt is when you are feeling guilting about wanting to work instead of spending time with your family.
If you are with your kids, you probably also experience the guilt of thinking about work. If you are any thing like me you love your work almost as much you love your children.
Having a purpose that motivates you to get out of bed is everything to you.
When my children were small I stayed home with them for 2 years, and disappeared as a person and a woman. My identity dissolved into my children and I found myself depressed and lost. I missed talking to people my age and being in the flow of life, but I wanted to raise my children like my mother raised me.
The constant ebb and flow of priorities and seeking creative ways to provide for my family without having to miss out on them growing up is a constant juggle, but I think with time, setting expectations with yourself, your kids, your spouse and the people you work with makes it easier.
As mothers who love to work and want to grow professionally and personally while raising a family…
REMEMBER…
YOU AREN’T ALONE IN YOUR STRUGGLES
YOUR CHILDREN ARE WATCHING YOU AND LEARNING HOW TO LIVE, WORK & PLAY. Make sure you are living a life you are proud of.
YOU GOT THIS!
Where is this whole thing going
It's exhausting, really. Trying to keep up. More often I think it is all in my head- that I am making my life, my reality harder than it needs to be. If it's in my head great! But then what do I do with it?
I originally started this page, this blog and even this business as a way to coach and guide other women in business through the ebbs and flows of owning a growing business, mothering and living life. It felt divinely guided and just what I needed at the time. A break or perhaps an escape.
Maybe you can relate to the need to escape your own reality, and find yourself searching for a place to recreate yourself, your work or maybe just be you in a world that just pushes and drives and strives for more. More work, more money, more clients, more balance, more happiness, more healthy, more sexy, more.
It's exhausting, really. Trying to keep up. More often I think it is all in my head- that I am making my life, my reality harder than it needs to be. If it's in my head great! But then what do I do with it?
Accept it. Face it. Cry about it. Learn from it. Keep it in. Let it out. Figure it out. Let it be.
I think these are questions, and answers that most of us momma bosses are seeking. Because let's be real- nobody every showed us just how hard it was gonna be to have it all, or at the very least dare to strive for it all. Our mothers never told us that to be a mother, didn't mean we were nothing else. They did everything so selflessly for us, but I think purhaps they also forgot to show us their own humanity.
Did you too ever look at your mother as a robot, or this being sent to take care of you? Feed you? Drive you and your friends around? Scream at you? Clean the house?
Up until about 9 years ago, I thought that was all it was to be a mother- you have no identity. Your life as a person is over. All your experiences involve your children from time time of conception to your time of death.
One day I woke up, and realized I was still alive, I still had goals, and ambitions that didn't include my children or my significant other . Things that I still wanted, that I was willing to do the work for to show up in this world, in this life- in a way that I felt would best honor my own creation.
I suppose this blog is just that, or at least the direction I want to take it.
How to live a life you are proud of with all the hats we wear, and pull all the joy, the love, the laughter, the pain and the sorrow out of it that we can. To truly experience life on your terms- even with it sucks. lol.
Maybe at some point I will have seminars, retreats, and get togethers. But for now I am just going to allow whatever is happening here happen. I won't force success, as I find myself so often doing. I just hope that this page, this blog, becomes by fierce cry out to the world and maybe just maybe makes your day just a little more exciting.
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