Stop Making Shitty Decisions
Everyone has sabotaging habits, and behaviors, some of us have far more damaging ways to sabotage our lives and our happiness in a big way. The good news is that you don’t have to continue sabotage your own happiness and success blindly.
The bad news it takes a lot of work and awareness to change your behaviors and your thought processes. It take courage to address the bits of ourselves that we know are out our highest calling or representation of ourselves.
I get it, I am formerly known as “Hurricane Sara,” my brother gave me this name, after watching me for years build relationships only to destroy them. The circle of drama surrounding me was intense. I was always cheating chaos around me, and it was exhausting for me and those around me.
We all have ways of sabotaging ourselves, and our our happiness, but we also can make an active choice to do something different, but it takes work an awareness.
The ways we sabotage ourselves can show up in how we treat our bodies, how we show up in relationships, the time we take to nurture our minds, bodies. Sabotage can show up in our finances, how we manage out time and the stories we tell ourselves.
The first step to changing your shitty decisions is recognizing the shitty decisions your are already habitually making in your
Relationships…
Finances…
Health…
Work…
Leadership….
Parenting…
Thoughts and pattern interrupt…
Assumptions you have…
Communication…
So many people are addicted to the drama and the stories that come with the shitty decisions they make. When you have a victim story, people listen, they feel bad for you, and the give you attention. Which is nice, but it’s not helping you live your best life.
Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought-
How did I get here?
Is this really my life?
I can’t keep going this way…
I need to change, but don’t know how.
I totally get it, several years ago I found myself having theses same challenging thoughts. I was unhappy and I knew that the only to change my unhappiness was to take control of my thoughts, my actions and my reactions.
It wasn’t going to be easy.
I wasn’t easy.
How do you take control of your poor decision making, when making shitting decisions is as natural as breathing?
Observe your patterns
If you are too close to your patterns and poor decision making, ask a friend or even better ask someone you’ve hurt to help diagnose your patterns. Brace yourself, it’s going to eye opening, shocking, and painful.
Observe your thoughts as you see your patterns coming to life
Awareness is the first step in changing anything. So take a step back from your thoughts, look at them and recognize that just because you have a thought doesn’t mean you have to act on it.
STOP
Stop, pause, think. Seriously- if you constantly respond or react at the height of emotion- when you feel yourself getting emotional- stop. Do nothing. Go read a book, take a shower, go for a walk, think. Do nothing, until you are clear headed and no longer emotional.
Get curious
Ask yourself what else you can do or say other than what your knee jerk reaction naturally is. In your mind observe your options, before you decide what you are going to do.
Take care of yourself
Seriously, sounds nuts I know. Take care of yourself first. Make sure you are good. Make sure your heart is good. Make sure your spirit is good. Then and only make a better decision
As you unfurl the process of getting better with your decisions, realize it won’t be easy. There will be bumps in the road.
Heck there will even be times when it is physically painful to not react or explode with pain, anger, frustration and sabotage. Expect the pain. Expect the frustration.
Know that when you learn to handle yourself, your decisions and your emotions in the beginning it will be hard, but the end result is an inner strength that no one can take from you.
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