3 Tips to Get Your Head Right ( When You Just Don't Wanna...)
I have witnessed over the years, the people who win the most in business and in life in general are the people who manage to take control of their state of mind, harness their energy and realize that only they can shift their mind, energy and output.
Remember- YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOU
It can be really easy to take your foot off the gas of driving your business and life forward when nothing seems to be going as planned, but those are the moments you need to remind yourself to dig in, dig deeper, trust the process, and keep going.
Some days it can be challenging to get out of bed and make shit happen.
A case of I don’t want to’s can stem from procrastination and fear.
You might think it’s laziness, but I you read this blog, I know you are not a lazy person. You aren’t afraid of hard work or putting yourself out there and doing the things you need to do to be successful.
Some days though, we forget why we decided to venture down the path of entrepreneurship and pursue the path less traveled. We begin to doubt ourselves, our capabilities, and our inner drive feels like it went from 60 to 0 overnight.
It’s super uncomfortable to go from feeling like you are on top of the world to lower than dirt, but I haven’t met one business owner who doesn’t ride the emotional roller coaster from time to time, I honestly believe that, it’s part of the journey.
Looking back on when my Dad was growing his businesses, he would have high highs of joy and winning and low lows of getting his ass kicked.
As an entrepreneur that’s kind of what we sign up for. We live life in the fast lane which can often start to resemble the stress lane. We strive to push the world forward with our products and services, and we can’t expect ourselves to be “on” all the time.
I have witnessed over the years, the people who win the most in business and in life in general are the people who manage to take control of their state of mind, harness their energy and realize that only they can shift their mind, energy and output.
Remember- YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOU
It can be really easy to take your foot off the gas of driving your business and life forward when nothing seems to be going as planned, but those are the moments you need to remind yourself to dig in, dig deeper, trust the process, and keep going.
It takes real trust in yourself, your capabilities and the vision you have for the future.
The thing is, in those moments of “I don’t wanna” and feeling defeated we have a choice to keep moving forward, lay off the gas or throw in the towel.
It’s important to remember that when things get hard in business you must remind yourself that “This is what hard feels like.”
Being a business owner or entrepreneur is not easy and it never will be, so go ahead and let go of the delusion that it will get easier- no my friend, you will just get better.
We are all faced with the the reality at some point- that it’s hard and hard for a reason.
Here are 3 Things you can do to change your state, when you don’t really feel like showing up and working towards growing your business and working on your vision.
1) Get Your Mind Right
Many battles are won and lost in the space between your ears. If you don’t take the time to harness your thoughts, and steer them, your thoughts will steer you. Fear and defeat are super powerful emotions that in essence are there to protect us from the lion eating us. There is no lion that is going to eat you just because things aren’t going your way today.
Negative and fear based thinking will always take you down though- unless you harness it.
My favorite ways to harness my thoughts are:
Journalling
Prayer & Meditation
Revisiting my goals
Returning to why I got started in the first place and why I believe in my vision and my mission
2) Don’t think- Just Do- Until You’re Done
Simplistic as it may sound, sometimes you just gotta show up, do the work, until the work is done. People too often let their most emotional thoughts and feelings dictate the things they will and won’t do in work, life, relationships, health, etc. The desires for pleasure and relief of pain are very strong, but when you can temporarily shut off the emotion and just do the thing you must do- over time it will give you confidence and discipline.
At the end of the day isn’t that what creates success anyways? DISCIPLINE
3) Move your body
Seriously, there is very little that hard workout or a walk won’t solve. That boost of endorphins, oxygen to your brain and a good sweat not only cleanses your mind, your mood, and is a great reset for stinkin thinkin. Not many people actually enjoy exercise- but I don’t know anyone who hasn’t felt better after a good sweat sesh.
Something else I really like a good workout is you meet your weakest and strongest self in every session. The negative fearful thinking inside you is put to the test, and put in it’s place.
It’s important to remember that through the day to day of growing a business whether it’s brick and mortar or online- all business owners have days when they really don’t feel like and don’t want to- but what you choose to do with those thoughts will ultimately dictate your success.
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Stop Making Shitty Decisions
Everyone has sabotaging habits, and behaviors, some of us have far more damaging ways to sabotage our lives and our happiness in a big way. The good news is that you don’t have to continue sabotage your own happiness and success blindly.
Everyone has sabotaging habits, and behaviors, some of us have far more damaging ways to sabotage our lives and our happiness in a big way. The good news is that you don’t have to continue sabotage your own happiness and success blindly.
The bad news it takes a lot of work and awareness to change your behaviors and your thought processes. It take courage to address the bits of ourselves that we know are out our highest calling or representation of ourselves.
I get it, I am formerly known as “Hurricane Sara,” my brother gave me this name, after watching me for years build relationships only to destroy them. The circle of drama surrounding me was intense. I was always cheating chaos around me, and it was exhausting for me and those around me.
We all have ways of sabotaging ourselves, and our our happiness, but we also can make an active choice to do something different, but it takes work an awareness.
The ways we sabotage ourselves can show up in how we treat our bodies, how we show up in relationships, the time we take to nurture our minds, bodies. Sabotage can show up in our finances, how we manage out time and the stories we tell ourselves.
The first step to changing your shitty decisions is recognizing the shitty decisions your are already habitually making in your
Relationships…
Finances…
Health…
Work…
Leadership….
Parenting…
Thoughts and pattern interrupt…
Assumptions you have…
Communication…
So many people are addicted to the drama and the stories that come with the shitty decisions they make. When you have a victim story, people listen, they feel bad for you, and the give you attention. Which is nice, but it’s not helping you live your best life.
Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought-
How did I get here?
Is this really my life?
I can’t keep going this way…
I need to change, but don’t know how.
I totally get it, several years ago I found myself having theses same challenging thoughts. I was unhappy and I knew that the only to change my unhappiness was to take control of my thoughts, my actions and my reactions.
It wasn’t going to be easy.
I wasn’t easy.
How do you take control of your poor decision making, when making shitting decisions is as natural as breathing?
Observe your patterns
If you are too close to your patterns and poor decision making, ask a friend or even better ask someone you’ve hurt to help diagnose your patterns. Brace yourself, it’s going to eye opening, shocking, and painful.
Observe your thoughts as you see your patterns coming to life
Awareness is the first step in changing anything. So take a step back from your thoughts, look at them and recognize that just because you have a thought doesn’t mean you have to act on it.
STOP
Stop, pause, think. Seriously- if you constantly respond or react at the height of emotion- when you feel yourself getting emotional- stop. Do nothing. Go read a book, take a shower, go for a walk, think. Do nothing, until you are clear headed and no longer emotional.
Get curious
Ask yourself what else you can do or say other than what your knee jerk reaction naturally is. In your mind observe your options, before you decide what you are going to do.
Take care of yourself
Seriously, sounds nuts I know. Take care of yourself first. Make sure you are good. Make sure your heart is good. Make sure your spirit is good. Then and only make a better decision
As you unfurl the process of getting better with your decisions, realize it won’t be easy. There will be bumps in the road.
Heck there will even be times when it is physically painful to not react or explode with pain, anger, frustration and sabotage. Expect the pain. Expect the frustration.
Know that when you learn to handle yourself, your decisions and your emotions in the beginning it will be hard, but the end result is an inner strength that no one can take from you.
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